Parenting in the Messy Middle: Understanding Yourself in the Tween and Young Teen Years

Parenting in the Messy Middle:

Understanding Yourself in the Tween and Young Teen Years

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Do any of these sound familiar?

  • I’m sick of fighting with my child all the time.
  • My beloved child feels like a stranger to me.
  • I am constantly reacting to my child. We go from one drama to the next.
  • I need some common sense support. I don't feel like I know what I'm doing.

If parenting feels really hard to you right now, you are not alone.

We live in challenging times, and parents and kids are struggling.

After working with hundreds and hundreds of parents of tweens and young teens, I have seen a pattern emerge. The pendulum tends to swing dramatically from too controlling to throwing up our hands and giving up. In either case, we feel out of control and our tweens need us to stay steady. Not perfect. Steady. 

So, I created a course to steady us. (And I mean US, I am in this, too).

You CAN grow and cultivate an easier, more peaceful relationship with your child starting TODAY, and get support and encouragement so that those changes LAST.

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Parenting in the Messy Middle

A course to help you identify your specific struggles and triggers, understand the role of connection, manage your family dynamics with family meetings, and figure out consequences and punishments.

Grow and cultivate a calm, understanding, more connected relationship with your tween or young teen starting TODAY.

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Aren't parenting classes for terrible parents?

BREAKING NEWS: NO! Parenting tweens and young teens can be, a-hem, just a little bit...FROUGHT sometimes.

Our culture, from the moment you had kids, decided you needed to know what to do, all of the time. First of all, that’s not even possible and second of all, our tweens/young teens do not need for us to know everything.

We don’t do ourselves any favors when we decide we need to have all the answers at all times, and your teens and tweens can spot a phony a mile away. 

Parenting is HARD and teens and tweens can be complicated beings. Getting support doesn’t mean you’re clueless; it means you know how important it is to ask for help when you need it. 

It’s self-care, and truly, it’s just how life works. We can ALL use a little backup now and then.

Introducing Parenting in the Messy Middle

An online class that never closes.

We figure out what areas of parenting young teens or tweens evoke the strongest responses from you.

We create a plan to decrease the struggles in your family, as well as deepen your connection to and understanding of your child.

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You grow and cultivate a more peaceful and easy relationship with your child.

Parenting in the Messy Middle: Understanding Yourself in the Tween and Young Teen Years

After working with hundreds of parents of tweens and young teens, I have seen a pattern emerge. The pendulum tends to swing dramatically from too controlling to throwing up our hands and giving up. In either case, we feel out of control AND our tweens need us to stay steady.

So, I created a course to steady us. (And I mean US, I am in this, too). By assessing how we feel about complicated tween topics first, we can then develop a game plan to parent our tweens through this fraught (and great!) time of their lives.

If we suppress how we feel about tough tween topics, my experience has taught me that we are likely to react rather than respond, hurting our relationships with our tweens when they often need us most.

What happens in the online class? Using my TARGET approach, you will learn:

  • Why the theory of connection with our children is the key to parenting
  • How to assess your challenges with your child in a way that creates clarity
  • How our specific reactions are affecting our parenting
  • How to create a parenting gameplan, using your data and the best techniques
  • And how to Take It Away.

Specifically for parents of tweens and young teens, you will learn how you feel about topics such as:

  • Sex and sexuality
  • Technology (gaming and social media)
  • Homework
  • Friendships
  • Chores
  • Independence
  • And more…

You will also have worksheets to better understand your buttons, as well as how to co-create solutions with your tween on any topic you can imagine.

You will be able to start applying the things you learn to your parenting life RIGHT AWAY!

Price: $295

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Who is this class for?
Any parent, grandparent, nanny, or caregiver who has a child ages 9-14.
Can my spouse or partner join me?
Absolutely! I strongly recommend that any partner who would like to take the class should not hesitate. So, think of that… this is like a BOGO for parenting support! (caveat: your partner will have to purchase the membership if they want to have their own login).
How do I know if this is right for me and my child?
I trust that you as a parent are the expert on your child. The material and the focus of this class is on connecting with your child, which every child needs. If you are uncertain about this fit, please reach out to us at
What if I already bought one of the courses?
While we are so grateful for your previous purchase, we are not offering any discounts for previous students.
Will this class fix my parenting problems?
No. I don’t believe that you or your child is broken, hence there is no need to fix anyone. I concentrate on how we understand ourselves and how that understanding either encourages or discourages our relationship with our child. Every human is complicated; this course seeks to address larger theories and issues in parenting. If you believe that you or your child is depressed, anxious, or suicidal, please reach out to your pediatrician or this hotline. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK). If there are other substance abuse or mental health issues, please contact SAMHSA at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). I also recommend that, when in doubt, every parent seek the advice of a trusted pediatrician. This class is not meant to be therapy nor does it provide diagnoses.
Are there refunds available?
No, all purchases are final, as all material is available immediately. No refunds or cancellations are possible. If you have any questions or concerns please reach out to us at
What if I need private coaching during the program?
Wonderful! You can sign up here to get additional 1:1 coaching with Meghan. Doing coaching along with this program will make it all the more enriching.
What is the pacing of the class?
The first module opens as soon as you sign up, after that new modules open up when you finish the previous module.
I hate Facebook, why is the group there?
Friend, I hear you. I hate it, too. And for now, it seems to be the simplest option for most parents. If you attend the book clubs, drop-ins and Zoom calls, you will feel part of the Club! AND I suggest hopping over to the FB group to get even more support.
Will Meghan be active in the Facebook Group?
This is meant to be a place for parents to gather. Meghan and her team will occasionally pop in.
Will I always be in the Facebook Group?
We will not be removing anyone from the Facebook Group for the foreseeable future. You can remove yourself at any point.
How long will I have access to the class?
You will have access to the class materials for as long as the class exists. I can't make any promises of forever. But you will be notified of a shut down well in advance.
What is your stance on DEI?
While I believe that the theories of connection are universal for every caretaker and child, systems of oppression, silencing of voices, and the centering of white parenting are important issues to face honestly. I have had both courses read by a DEI professional (and we worked together to make it better), and I fully acknowledge that I will still get it wrong. If there is anything that you may read or see that you feel is insensitive or objectionable, I always welcome a thoughtful conversation.
What about trauma?
I have been trained as a trauma-informed coach, and all of the Zooms and Drop-In’s will be trauma-sensitive. There is no direct coaching or therapy on someone’s trauma in the Club. If you have any questions about this, please feel free to reach out.
I still feel confused or I have questions not listed here. Who do I talk to?
Please reach out to us at
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Here’s what parents are saying...

“[This class] makes motherhood feel so much less lonely. It takes a village and this is my village.” 

- Jen G., Mother of 2
“This class has changed the ways I approach conflicts with my children. It’s also changed how I view their reactions to life. Both have resulted in more peace, a happier family, and healthier children (and parents).”
“Meghan has completely changed the way I parent. Focusing on connecting and building trust while maintaining boundaries is so much more effective and, frankly, fun than yelling all the time! I’m also so grateful for the way she builds social justice and empathy into her practice and teaching. #gamechanger”

- Margery S., Mother of 3
“If I could convince every parent to use Meghan Leahy, I would. Her smart, savvy and non-judgmental approach helped us tackle issues — big and small — we’d been struggling with for years. We’re better parents today thanks to her.”
“Meghan’s class has changed my parenting and my relationships (including with myself) for the better!”

- Sara T., Mother of 1
“Meghan is awesome because she takes all this brain-based parenting stuff that most of us did not grow up with and that is not particularly intuitive and makes it APPROACHABLE and ACHIEVABLE in a way that other teachers or books had not been for me.“
“Meghan’s class has some of the most helpful and practical information out there on how to better connect with your child so you both can do better. It’s worth its cost and then some. Truly!”


Meghan Leahy

I am a certified parent coach, a parenting columnist for The Washington Post, and author of Parenting Outside the Lines. Most importantly, I am a mother to three children, extreme lover of reality TV and a makeup artist. I have been working with families as a teacher, counselor, and parent coach since 1998.

Learn more about Meghan Leahy here.

Ashley Suksiriwong

I am a Virtual Assistant with over 14 years of customer service experience. I live in FL with my husband, and daughter. I have been a proud member of Meghan's team since June 2021. I love being able to help Meghan and other parents any way I can.

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